I was having dinner with a group of friends and reveling them with my latest dating disaster. One of my friends, Marcos, suggested I have a reality TV show called "Dating with Deby." "They could follow you with cameras on your date." Then he retracted "Well, the men probably wouldn't like that." he added. (Personally I think they would, so many of them are ego maniacs) I thought about doing a video blog..but then when I saw what I looked like on my laptop webcam..that idea was out. Can you spell "vieja chota" (decrepit)
At long last I decided to blog about my dates. If anything, my experiences make good dinner party conversation. I have adapted to life here. I love it. As a matter of fact the only thing I miss about the US is shopping and vitamins. OK, Vietnamese food too. I don't miss anyone or anything enough to even remotely consider leaving Argentina. I do miss, though, having regular male companionship. Good companionship. (That isn't Gay. I love my Gay husbands..but you know.)
I know women all over the world complain about men. It's our job. When you throw in a complete cultural change, it makes it even harder. Most of my women friends (Argentine, of course) have given up. "There is no one here" They tell me. But I, the eternal optimist or maybe stubborn cow, never gives up.
OK, so, some things I will never get used to. Like dating on What App. It used to be Messenger which has now become Skype. I hate this. I never give anyone my Skype name. I am not going to sit and waste time chatting with some guy who lives 3 blocks away. I do give my cell for Whats App but I make sure they know I am not into eternal chat. I cannot carry on an entire relationship through Whats App. That is just not my thing.
In the US I would meet guys at Peets, Whole Foods, and even Target. (I am not a Wal-Mart kind of girl) Even now when I go back to the US I meet guys in Whole Foods or Publix, or anywhere. It is like OK to talk to a guy you don't know. These crazy Argentine men (at least my generation) are so sex crazed and living in another galaxy they think you are madly in love with them if you just smile.
I don't think I will ever get used to some guy I just met, whether online, Whats App, or even with a first coffee date asking, "When is the last time you had sex?" Oh yes they do. If you reject this type of question they tell you "We are adults" (Oh really, well that was sort of a juvenile thing to ask..) or "Don't you like sex?" After a few guys asked me that, then the next guy asked I answered "A hour before you came to get me." His turn to be shocked. "Really?" He asked. "You had sex an hour before I came to get you?" It was hilarious. He was horrified. My response "What does it matter" Does it matter if I had sex 1 hour ago, 1 day, 1 month, or 1 year" He sulked "It was just a question." So is "Do you like movies" "What kind of music do you like?" etc...
One of my friends, an American man who has been living here 10 years told me "You know, you date by Whats App. Then you meet and have sex. Then if everything is OK, then you go out to dinner." At least that has been his experience with the women. I think I am still a little old fashioned. I like to have a coffee and then see if there is a reason to have a second date. I think sometimes that God is punishing me for having so much fun when I lived in California.